I had an epiphany on this topic of asking for help a few years ago, when I noticed that I LOVED it when a colleague or a student or one of my sisters reached out and asked me for help. It makes me feel honored and valuable, two really helpful contradictions of the dredges of childhood trauma. The other thing I started noticing is that asking for help provides an opportunity for connection. It feels like I'm imposing, but it's actually a hand extended over a breach. Showing vulnerability can feel not just hard, but dangerous, however the power in it can be transformative. I still struggle with it, but sometimes I remember that it almost always makes things better. Thanks for this reminder, friend.
Love this Tammy, this is a great point! It was definitely hard for me to ask for help when I first started my writing career. It was beyond hard and I felt weak doing it, even in school. But I guess it was super hard for me to realize that getting that help can make your life so much easier and save you tons of time. Pretty much most of the time I’ve invested in help, it was always worth it.💪💪
I had an epiphany on this topic of asking for help a few years ago, when I noticed that I LOVED it when a colleague or a student or one of my sisters reached out and asked me for help. It makes me feel honored and valuable, two really helpful contradictions of the dredges of childhood trauma. The other thing I started noticing is that asking for help provides an opportunity for connection. It feels like I'm imposing, but it's actually a hand extended over a breach. Showing vulnerability can feel not just hard, but dangerous, however the power in it can be transformative. I still struggle with it, but sometimes I remember that it almost always makes things better. Thanks for this reminder, friend.
Love this Tammy, this is a great point! It was definitely hard for me to ask for help when I first started my writing career. It was beyond hard and I felt weak doing it, even in school. But I guess it was super hard for me to realize that getting that help can make your life so much easier and save you tons of time. Pretty much most of the time I’ve invested in help, it was always worth it.💪💪